From the automatic pilot to the driverseat

Everyone will at at a certain time in their lives expirience life is not unfolding the way you wished or expected,  often it solves itself again. Sometimes however it's not as easy. You try all sorts of approaches but somehow you find yourself not being able to resolve your situation or feel yourself geting stuck in al old pattern. You want to take enough rest for yourself, enjoy and be happy with yourself, but do not succeed. Negative thoughts might come up like: It's always the same, why does this happen to me, I'm messing up, I will never succeed, etc. These thoughts do not you help you in the long run.

Crux

Together with 2blossom you explore where the crux lies and how you can become empowered through insight and practical advice. How for example do you undermine yourself, or procrastinate or feel dissatisfied in your relationships. Where are you responding out of automatism and stick in an action-reaction pattern.

Bumps in te road

How we cope with bumps in the road has to do partially with character (nature) and what we have learned whilts growing up (nurture). Many 'auto pilots' work positively for us and some do not, or have done so in the past, but not anymore. By becoming aware of the automated pilots who no longer work for you, you can take control over the steering wheel again. And learn to choose what is best for you from from a loving attitude towards yourself. At times this can also be tough love. Next to patience & compassion you need discipline to change any pattern and allowing yourself the time and to make mistakes.

New behaviour, new neural pathways

Our brains are our most plastic organ. Also on your 100th, you can still train it and create new brain structures. If for years you are accustomed to react in a certain way to stress, by sbinging on chocolate, by being critical of yourself or by letting the cashier have it, it will take time to change this. It starts with awareness. Because you no longer respond primary you can choose your response. The old pattern can still be quite addictive, it is after all what your brains knows. Even though it does not help you, it is "safe" because this is what you know.

The more often you conciously choose the positive pattern the easier it becomes after that. This is because your brain creates new connections. New emotional paths so to speak. When you are tired the tendency to take the old "path" will be stronger. Because it was ofter used it turned into sort of neural "highway". But the more often you consciously choose the stronger your positive Race circuit will become.